How to deal with the question: Can I touch your hair? When the answer is: No

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12 thoughts on “How to deal with the question: Can I touch your hair? When the answer is: No

  1. Hi there Valley,
    I am a naturalista too and I would get random colleagues trying to touch my hair so at first I wore headwraps to hide it but when summer came, it was too hot and then exposed my tresses. A male junior doctor came up to touch my afro puff without asking. Immediately I said sorry, please do not touch my hair! He asked me why and I said that it’s for spiritual reasons and he apologised. I use this comment all the time. I am spiritual and believe people carry certain energies whether it is positive or negative. I believe our hair are receptors of energy so I cover my hair with headwraps most of the time or wear protective styles to keep hands out. I may seem extreme but in other cultures, you wouldn’t dare touch a woman’s hair. We are not pets.

    • That’s a great one. I love that he asked why like it was his right to investigate your hair. I wonder if he would have touched a female or a male colleague with hair like his own without asking. He would probably be up for sexual harassment allegations. Our hair for some is viewed with such curiosity that maybe we should start charging lol.

  2. I used to have this problem. My hair was really long and my friends wanted to “play” with it. I do not know what compels people to want to touch someone else’s hair. We all know how much effort it takes for someone to do their hair in the morning. Why? I can’t add anything to the list unless we’re offending people. LOL

    Maybe step back, smile and say please don’t touch my hair. Thanks 🙂

    • Yes I agree there seems to be some fascination with other people feeling compelled to touch/play with someone else’s hair. Yep stepping back with a smile can work. Thanks Missy.

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