If you have natural hair I would be surprised if you haven’t been asked: “Can I touch your hair?”
This question can come from anybody, even complete strangers.
It has happen to me many times. The last time in fact was when a black female colleague of mine. We were meeting up in a restaurant with a few others. As I arrived she said oh Valley I like your hair, can I feel it, and before I had a chance to say NO, she ran her fingers across my slicked back pony tail, and I was not impressed.
Now it’s not that I thought she had dirty hands, but I had just spent a night with a headscarf on to slick my ‘fly away’ baby hairs down; so the last thing I wanted was someone, anyone, even a friend lifting up, my lovingly tendered edges.
That was a friend, but strangers ask too. Now I don’t want to seem unfriendly, but I just don’t like people touching my hair, especially when it’s followed by them unconsciously rubbing my product which has now soiled their hands, on to their other hand or even their clothes (yes I saw you… circa 1998 Lol).
No you can’t touch my Natural Hair!
So how do you say No without causing offense? Lol!
Here are 4 user friendly excuses:
- Oh my hair has lots of product in and it will make your hands all greasy.
- Touch my hair? (smile), really it feels no different then yours. Then change the subject.
- Pretend you did not hear the question and start talking to them about the weather.
- Giggle, and tell them gently that they have just committed what many with our type of hair, would consider a Faux Pas (a social blunder).
I’ve only got 4 . So ladies, please add to the list – What would you say if the answer is NO!
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